Hey friend 💗,
If you’re like me, there are days when things feel heavy and overwhelming, and then there are days when it all seems like it’s falling into place. No matter where you are today, I want you to know it’s okay to not have everything figured out.
I’ve been reflecting on my own healing journey recently, and I thought now was the right time to share a little piece of that story with you. It’s real, it’s messy, and it’s still unfolding.
So let’s dive in, together. I’ve got something I think you’ll really connect with.
There are days when I feel light — like I’m floating through life with a peaceful heart. And then there are days when the heaviness returns, like an old, uninvited guest settling into the pit of my stomach.
This is something I wish more people talked about: healing is not a straight line.
For years, I thought healing meant closure. I thought it meant leaving my past behind and never looking back. I thought it meant becoming someone who never flinched at certain words, never shut down during hard conversations, never cried over things that “shouldn’t” hurt anymore.
But that’s not how it works — not for me, and probably not for you either.
The Moment Everything Shifted
I remember a night when I couldn’t sleep. I was exhausted, mentally and emotionally drained, but my mind kept spiraling through memories I’d buried deep. The kind of memories that make you question your worth, your identity, your strength.
That night, I sat on the floor and sobbed — not because I felt weak, but because I realized I was tired of pretending I wasn’t hurting.
That moment wasn’t my breakdown — it was my breakthrough.
I stopped trying to “move on” and started learning how to move with the pain. To allow space for it. To listen to what it had to teach me. And most importantly, to meet it with compassion instead of shame.
What Trauma Taught Me About Myself
Trauma has a way of disconnecting you from who you truly are. I didn’t even realize how numb I had become until I started doing the work to feel again. And let me tell you — feeling is terrifying at first. It’s also freeing.
I began noticing patterns: how I’d shrink myself in conversations, how I’d avoid expressing my needs, how I’d silence my intuition just to feel safe.
These weren’t random behaviors. They were survival tactics I learned as a child and carried into adulthood.
Healing meant unlearning them.
Healing meant choosing myself, again and again, even when it was uncomfortable.
The Tools That Held Me
There were no magical fixes. But there were anchors that helped me stay grounded during the storm:
- Journaling — the one place where I could be brutally honest without fear of judgment.
- Breathwork — learning to regulate my nervous system one inhale at a time.
- Affirmations — even when I didn’t believe them yet, I spoke them until something softened.
- Therapy — giving voice to what I had never said aloud was both terrifying and liberating.
- Grace — because healing requires gentleness, not perfection.
It was in the quiet moments — pen in hand, tears on the page — that I began returning to myself.
Where I Am Now
I’m still healing. That’s the truth.
I have better days and harder days. But now, I don’t measure my worth by how “together” I seem. I measure it by how often I show up for myself, even when it’s hard.
I’ve learned to hold my past with compassion instead of shame. I’ve learned that healing doesn’t mean forgetting — it means making peace with your story.
And if you’re on your own path right now — I see you.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.
A Gentle Invitation
If you’re ready to reconnect with yourself — not the version shaped by survival, but your grounded, whole self — I created The Grounded Self Journal for you.
This journal includes the very prompts and practices that helped me move through the darkest parts of my healing journey with more clarity, grace, and self-love.
You don’t need to have all the answers — you just need a safe space to begin.
Let this be yours.
Explore The Grounded Self Journal →
With love,
Jamiah
Healing My Crown
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